Laura and Daniel and I went to meet Aunty Sharon to help with a video for a church event. Kids were excited about it. But Laura changed her mind when it all started - didn't want to smile or be helpful at all. Hmmm. Took her aside, did the whole "
do you want to choose to be helpful to Aunty Sharon and have good manners or do you want to choose to be difficult?" Yep, straight in the eye, she says to me,
"I want to be difficult." Okay, what now? "
Well Laura, if you choose to be difficult, then when we go for a hot chocolate (which before that moment wasn't planned) with Noah and Veia later (who were also helping out), your choice to be difficult means that you won't be having a hot chocolate, but you'll be sitting by yourself." Magic. It was bribery, I know, I was desperate! No lectures please... :)
5 comments:
There is NO bribery abou that at all. I think you were RIGHT ON. Lately in my house when they have an attitude with me or their sibling, my statement is: if you cannot treat me or your siblings nicely, I cannot trust that you will treat others nicely. So you need to [sit here by yourself, not play outside with a friend, not get to go somewhere, etc]. It is very effective and shows there are social consequences to our poor behavior. We are rude = people dont like us = we dont get to do fun things. At Laura's age, fun things are special hot chocolate outings, as an adult, we dont have friends at all!
SO blah-blah-blah - GREAT JOB thinking on the fly!
(howz that for a big sister response?)
Hum, riminds me of someone in my past...
Mom
Not bribery, just consequences!!
DAD
I think the way you worded the consquence was great. I wish I could be as good at explaining consequences...not bribery =)
I love it! And we've all done this - it's just part of smart parenting. :)
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